Hi, I hope you are doing well and that you and your family are safe and healthy.
I found out early that I was good at being calm in a storm. Good in a crisis. There’s something about being able to be there for others in their time of need that shifts me into action and in my most supportive empathic place. I’ve done good work in my own life so that I can give that kind of care and support and be present in ways that people appreciate.
And I hope to get to be present with you right in the comfort of your home. So stay home. It’s ok. And keep you and your family safe and healthy. You can still find healing and security right where you are. And take good care of one another.
As you and I are inside our homes adhering to the stay at home order, it doesn’t mean our lives have to come to a standtill or that we are unable to help our world that is also in need of our contribution. I’m a believer that if it is within my power to add to the goodness in this world, I will do just that. I will be the change that I want to see in the world. And we all choose how we can and would like to do that.
And although we may feel at times powerless and cannot control the outcome, we are to some degree trusting moment to moment without having access to knowing everything. And that can be hard to do for some of us.
And if you need to grow and develop through this and need someone to lean on, there is help available to you. I want you to know that. Some lean on thier faith and relationship with God, some meditate, some seek support, some start therapy, and others do some version of some or all of the above. You get to decide what you need too. And I am here if you would like to work with me.
To be able to come into your home through teletherapy and help you as a Couple or Single feel connected, supported, and strengthen your life and love is one of my greatest joys. This is one way we keep singing through the times and stay connected as we grow stronger together.
Here are some ways I have been able to be a part of the positive things happening while COVID-19 and our stay at home order is in effect.
“I want to encourage and challenge you to take a moment to catch your breath. To Breathe. Ask yourself what you are feeling. Check in with others and ask if they have a moment to listen to you tell them what is honestly happening within you as you are home. And think about ways you can give to your own emotional health and when you are ready, check in with others while adhering to social distancing and stay at home orders. Don’t wait to long to let someone know what is happening with you.
We all need a safe place to share our heart and openly talk about what we want and need. Others need that from us too. This is the best time to see who in your life are in your corner, although I want to acknowledge that everyone responds to moments of crisis very differently, so make sure you are clear on the difference. (ex. – someone who is normally a rock and doles out sage advice and widsdom may be experiencing a deep sadness, or someone normally pessimistic may be more grateful and vulnerable). Don’t assume you know exactly what someone is feeling. Ask. And let them tell you.
This temporary state our world is in can have impact on us all. Please be patient & empathic with yourself & others. And ask others to extend their patience and empathy to you. We all need it.
You are discovering areas where your strength is high and areas where the opportunities to feel your life and the fears and worries that come up for you as a single or couple. This is not an easy place to be, so I want to give you some hope, because when this COVID-19 scare is over.
And at some point it will be, you will still need to be able to decide what you would like to do with what is going on inside you…all the feelings and worries that drive you to react to yourself or your partner, because your feelings are telling you something.
And if you ae looking for something that your kids may enjoy, here is a link to a FREE downloadable coloring book for you and your kids to enjoy together. A local artist created it by the name of Eric Junker: https://www.ericjunker.com/download-your-coloring-book
So what can your feelings be telling you:
You can get caught up in a way of interacting that over time more rapidly disconnects you.
Learning how to strengthen your understanding of what is really happening between you and learning how to build an emotional connection can be helpful to help you strengthen your love and connection and weather the storms. Let me help you get there.
Singles – Often times singles feel sadness, frustration, alone, disillusion, dismissed, rejected, and resigned. Your feelings are valid and need to be heard. To be listened to. And understood. Met. Just because you are not a part of a couple doesn’t mean you don’t desire connection. we all need it. Connection can be hard to find whether in a time of a pandemic or not.
You can still work through the emotional injuries that stall you when it comes to getting connected in this world or even getting connected to yourself and feeling secure and fulfilled. It is a process work taking on at any time in your life. When you are ready to mend the hurts and pains from your life, I welcome walking through it with you so that you can more fully thrive in your life and create the life you want and need.
Some people experience anxiety, frustrations, adn depression that can get even more intense in moments of crisis and bring those feelings to the surface in very real and normal ways. You are not alone in how you are feeling this time of COVID-19. What would be alarming is for you not to feel anything at all as we all feel something even if it’s uncertainty as we make our way to the calm.
And the people you have in your life can be great helps in listening to you and hearing your concerns or worries and giving you a place to express them. And one of the things I help Singles and Couples with is making sense of those thoughts and feelings and creating a kind of understanding and connection that can help you weather any storm.
Let me know what you are doing to stay connected and how you are finding your way through this as your faith that the connection has been temporarily interupted and not permanently broken.
Let me help you get through this moment and transition back to the life waiting for you on the other side of COVID-19
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Take a moment when you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed at night and list or say 3 things you are grateful for. If you have one, that’s a very good start and it’s good enough.